When Moving a Loved One Into a Separate Home Becomes the Best Option

Even families we recognize, like actor Bruce Willis’s, have faced the heartbreaking reality of dementia. His diagnosis is a reminder that this disease does not discriminate; it can touch any family, regardless of fame, resources, or background.  That is why it is so important to talk openly about caregiving, planning ahead, and walking through these seasons with love and wisdom. Recently, it was reported that Bruce Willis’s family had to move him to a facility that could provide him with better care.

Caring for a loved one with dementia or another progressive illness is one of the hardest responsibilities a family can take on. We want to keep the people we love close, but as needs increase, there often comes a point when keeping them at home is no longer safe or sustainable.

Moving a loved one into a separate, supportive home or facility is not a sign of failure. It is often an act of deep love, choosing safety, dignity, and quality of life over a situation that has become overwhelming for both the person in need of care and the family.

Why Families Make This Choice

• Safety concerns: Progressive conditions like dementia often bring wandering, falls, and confusion. A secure environment designed for care can reduce risks.

• Daily care needs: As the ability to handle bathing, dressing, eating, or medications declines, family caregivers may not be able to provide 24/7 assistance.

• Caregiver burnout: Even with great love, caregiving is physically and emotionally draining. When caregivers are stretched too thin, no one thrives.

• Protecting family life: Spouses and children also need a healthy, stable environment. Sometimes separating the spaces allows both the loved one and the rest of the family to flourish.

How to Know It May Be Time

It’s never an easy decision, but these questions can help guide the process:

• Is your loved one safe at home, or are risks increasing?

• Are you able to keep up with their medical and personal care needs?

• Are you or other caregivers exhausted, resentful, or overwhelmed?

• Would a more structured environment bring peace of mind for you and dignity for your loved one?

What This Move Really Means

Placing a loved one in a separate home or care facility does not mean you are “giving up.” It means:

• You are prioritizing their safety and comfort.

• You are acknowledging that professional support is necessary.

• You are making room for healthier family relationships, being the spouse, daughter, or son again, not just the caregiver.

Visits, emotional connection, and shared moments remain at the center of the relationship. The location changes, but the love continues.

Planning Ahead Matters

If you are approaching this stage, planning can make the transition smoother:

• Legal preparation: Make sure advance directives, health care surrogates, and powers of attorney are in place so decisions can be made quickly and respectfully.

• Financial review: Explore Florida’s Medicaid waiver programs, long-term care insurance, and other benefits that may help cover costs.

• Community support: Connect with local Area Agencies on Aging, caregiver support groups, and dementia-friendly organizations in your county. Planning five years before you need Medicaid benefits is optimal.

Moving a loved one into a separate home is never easy, but it can be one of the most loving decisions you make. If you are facing this possibility, know that you are not alone. We can help you connect with professionals in our area who can assist you.  Send us an email if you would like a list of community resources available to help guide you. 

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives.

Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid. John 14:27